Saturday, July 7, 2012

The Minds of Others....

The other day I talked about getting used to the smaller "me".  I'm realizing, now,  that other people need to get used to the changes, too.

The thing that is happening, that I never expected, is that people are starting to tell me that I don't need to lose that much more weight.  I'm only half-way to my goal! 

At church last Sunday I heard this "you don't need to lose much more" from a couple of people.  It kind of threw me.  There's a danger that I could take their words to heart and quit working on my plan.  So I've been thinking about it.   But I have to realize that they are seeing a big change. I weigh less now than I have in over 20 years. People are used to seeing me really big, and taking off 63 pounds makes a difference in how I look.  Also, I know from my own experiences with friends losing weight in the past, that sometimes their success made me uncomfortable.  It's easier to feel okay about being overweight if you hang around overweight people.  If one of those people starts changing, it can feel a little threatening.

I'm just trying to keep all this in mind as I negotiate this portion of my journey.  I know my friends want the best for me, but some of them may be feeling uncomfortable with the changes they are seeing.  I think God let me go through my own "unfamiliarness" feelings before this came up, so that I could understand that although this is my journey, I'm not in it alone.  The things we do in our lives affect the people around us, for good or ill.  I need to be understanding of my friends as they adjust to the smaller "me", as well as being understanding of myself. 

Bottom line is that I'm not ending the journey here.  But I continue to be amazed at what God is teaching me!  He is amazing!


1 comment:

  1. Hi Cindy,
    I think it's so great that you see this as a pitfall. Persevere away! I think you're right. They see the big difference and think you look great! Which you do! You have set a reasonable, healthy goal for yourself. And you are set to achieve it--One bite at a time, one step at a time, one minute at a time! Keep up the good work!
    Your sister


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