Mind Bender!

I'm reading a book written by this guy.

It's called The Gabriel Method.  He transformed his life (and his body) through changing his mind!  He taught himself to think about weight loss in a different way...to be hungry for healthy food...to WANT to exercise!

He did it by telling himself things like, "Weight loss is easy" and "I'm safe."  He reprogrammed his mind to want to be healthy and active!

I'm very excited to discover someone else who agrees that how we think and what we say to ourselves is vitally important!  "As a man thinketh, so he is." (Proverbs 23:7)

Add to that little nugget the fact that God is in control.  "Glory be to God, who can do much, much more than anything we can ask or imagine through his power working in us." (Ephesians 3:20)  A person might start to believe true transformation is possible!

I'm trying very hard here to not end every sentence with an exclamation point!!!  That's difficult when I'm sitting here feeling like a fountain bubbling over with joy!  Hope will do that to you.  It'll make you smile.  It might even make you laugh out loud!

Hugs!

Resolved.

It's that time again.

Time to make all kinds of promises to myself that I know I am not going to be able to keep.

Let's see:  go through the One Year Bible, track my food every day, exercise at least 30 minutes a day, keep the house clean, do my taxes before the end of January, be kinder and gentler.  As much as I want to do these things, I know there will be days I miss the mark. 

So this year, I decided to make a different kind of resolution:  I am RESOLVED to learn to like the things in my life that I am supposed to do anyway!

For example, I love having a clean house, but I don't love cleaning it.  If I could learn to at least like doing those little househouse chores that I find so annoying (and a clean cat box would make everybody happier) then wouldn't my life in general be more enjoyable?  And if I can't find a way to really like poop scooping then maybe, at least, I can scoop with my thoughts on the happy outcome of a temporarily fresh kitty box.

I want to learn to love how great I feel after a brisk morning walk.  And to focus on that feeling of satisfaction at the end of the day when I've stayed within my points limit.  I want to relish and look forward to twenty minutes each morning reading the Bible, which will put me in a good frame of mind for the whole day. 

There's such a tension between what we want to do and what we ought to do.  But if I want to do what I should, then life would be beautiful indeed.

Hugs.

2012: In Review

As of today, I have lost a total of 68 pounds.

In the last twelve months, I lost 28.4 pounds.  Not a lot...less than three pounds a month average.  But I am certainly happy that I'm nearly 30 pounds lighter than I was a year ago.

This year presented me with many challenges, including a very frustrating plateau, a trip to the ER and gallbladder surgery, and a couple of bouts of the flu (one of which I am currently experiencing!)  I have survived a family reunion, Thanksgiving and Christmas, several pot lucks, dancing at the Dr. Phil Show, and being told off.

I transitioned into "regular size" clothing for the first time in 28 years.

I'm less likely than I used to be to turn to food when I'm stressed.  (Sometimes I still feel the urge, but have learned that eating is not going to help.)  I have more energy, and am a little more physically active.  I'm starting to be okay with not cleaning my plate if I realize that I'm not hungry any more.  I'm more comfortable in social situations involving food, and am feeling less threatened by situations where I don't have control over what is being served.

I'm starting to see myself, if not as a thin person, at least as a "not obese" person. 

Probably the most important thing I've learned this year is the value of having supportive friends and family.  I truly believe that all of my past weight loss attempts have failed because I tried to do it on my own without any support.  So much of this effort has to do with love, acceptance and forgiveness!  While it is important to be able to give these gifts to ourselves, the power of giving these gifts to each other is off the charts!  I'm so very grateful to be the recipient of your love, acceptance and forgiveness, and I'm giving it right back to you.

Hugs.

Handicapped

Sometimes, I can be difficult.

I can be critical, judgmental and unpleasant to be around.  I don't like this side of myself, but there it is.  So many times I have wished people would understand that when I am less than my best self, it's because I'm battling old fears and hurts.

I bring this subject up in this-here-weight-loss blog because it's one of the reasons I have eaten too much over a vast portion of my life.  For many years I buried my hurts under a pile of some kind of fattening food, or drowned them in a pool of alcohol, or both!  Even though I look normal, I often feel handicapped, unable to deal with the normal pains and miseries that life sometimes brings to us all.

Then, it hit me.  Life brings pain and miseries to us all.  In a way, we are all handicapped.  I'm not the only one.  Everyone is dealing with something.  Realizing this helps me, hopefully, to be more understanding.  And hopefully, I can also remember this the next time I feel like being critical, judgemental or unpleasant. 

I have always known that in order to win the weight-loss battle, I needed to deal with the underlying issues of why I was eating too much.  This is definitely one of those issues.  Please don't think that by recognizing this I am sitting here feeling bad about myself!  On the contrary, I feel...relieved.  It's like a knot has unloosed from my innards that has been there most of my life.  I'm sure there will be other knots to untangle, but this feels like progress.

This is an imperfect world, and I tend to be a perfectionist.  I have been frustrated by the inevitable imperfections that I see every day.  I have tried to "fix" things, or have complained about the ones I couldn't fix, and/or have tried to eat my frustrations away.  And all this time, I've been missing the point entirely.  The point is, we are all doing the best we can, and we need to cut each other some slack.  That doesn't mean we shouldn't be accountable, but we need...I NEED...to be more understanding when things don't go the way we wish they would.

One reason I have been so "prickly" most of my life is that I have felt so alone and unacceptable.  But now, thanks to the wonderful friends God has brought into my life, I feel...how shall I put it?....more safe.  I like this feeling.  I love my friends.  I'm so grateful to have you all in my life (including my sister!)  Your love and acceptance is really helping me get through all this.  It's like, yeah, we're all handicapped in some way, but we're going to make it through.  Together. 

Hugs.



Yes and No

I have been saying "Yes" a lot lately.

Yes, I'll play the flute for that Vespers Service.  Yes, I'll sing with you at the neighborhood Christmas party.  Yes, I'll ring bells at church for you since you can't be there.  Yes, I'll go Christmas caroling with you.  Yes, I'll have a piece of carrot cake.  Yes, a little wine would be nice!

Now you know all about my weekend.  It was fun!  I'm exhausted!  Today will definitely be a day to say yes to rest and recovery.  But if someone calls and asks if I'll do one more "special" thing between now and Christmas, I'll probably say, "No." (With a smile, of course!)

Yes and No.  What my life looks like--and what I look like for that matter--depends on where I choose to say "Yes" and where I choose to say "No."  It's easy to feel like I'm saying "Yes" too much during the holidays.  There are so many....opportunities!  The sweet treats are everywhere!  The special occasions abound!  I don't want to miss any of the fun.  I guess the trick is to say yes to the things that really matter, and to not feel guilty about saying no to the others. 

In my old life, I said yes to every kind of food and no to all but the most essential activities (like walking to the kitchen--essential!)  Last year during the holidays I said "NO! NO! NO!" to most of the treats that were offered.  This year, I'm saying, "Yes, thank you," to what I hope are reasonable amounts of special treats.  I did say no to the Third Annual Cookie Exchange at my church.  I wanted to go and be with my friends, but I knew that being surrounded by all those delicious home baked cookies would be too much for me to handle.  (Good grief!  Just thinking about it I swear I can smell cookies right now!)  There's always next year.  Maybe that is something I will be able to say yes to later.

Matthew 5:37 begins with, "Let your 'yes' be 'yes' and your 'no' be 'no.' "  We need them both to get through this life!

Hugs.

Satisfaction

I just finished eating a most decadent breakfast.

It was crepes, filled with cream cheese, topped with a warm mixed berry sauce, and accompanied by two generous patties of turkey sausage.  It was delicious.

In WW speak, we're talking 10 points here.  That's more than a third of my daily allotment, and way more than I would ever eat for breakfast before my Bistro MD diet intervention!

So, to reassure myself, after I logged today's breakfast points I grabbed my other two meals for the day so I could go ahead and put them into my points-plus tracker, to make sure I wasn't going to go over.  There it was.  When both meals were added, I still had 4 points left for a snack or two during the day.  All that cream cheese and points left over. And, I'm having salmon for dinner tonight. Amazing.

So while I was enjoying this decadent breakfast, confident in the knowledge that my points-plus limits were safe for the day, I realized that eating this way is satisfying.  The way I was eating before the "intervention" was to consume as little as possible at each eating opportunity, because dieting is about deprivation, right?  As it turns out....WRONG.  I'm not going to find myself grazing in the kitchen in an hour, looking for a little something to snack on, because I'm satisfied.  I'm nourished.  I even feel like I had a treat.  If I find myself needing a little something later, I'll be happy with an apple and a few nuts.

The really exciting thing, to me, is that I am looking forward to a lifetime of satisfying, delicious and healthy eating!  There are many more berry crepes in my future!  This is directly opposite of how I have always viewed dieting and post-dieting eating in the past, which promised only a future of deprivation, misery and backsliding.  I now believe it truly is possible to enjoy wonderful foods and lose weight! 

It's like....a miracle!  And yet, the world hasn't changed.  The laws of physics haven't changed.  The change is happening in me!  I'm finally beginning to understand there is a healthy way to eat and live that I can live with.  That's pretty darn exciting!

Hugs.





Influence

And here it is:  another lesson from my devestating weekend!

Everything we do... everything we say... matters. We influence those around us, even when we don't realize that we are influencing them.  And how we live our lives (i.e., everything we do, everything we say) affects the people around us...for good or for ill.

So every time I crab about something or someone to a friend, I'm either discouraging them because I'm being so negative, or I'm encouraging them to be a crab too.  And every time I do or say something positive, I may be encouraging someone who needs a little more "positive" in their life. 

Even in trying to be positive, there's a danger that we might be criticised (the words "goody two shoes" come to mind.)  But I, for one, would rather err on the positive side than the negative.  Or, as a dear friend once told me, "Err on the side of grace."

I'm feeling much better today.  I know that I will continue to fail in many ways, but I also know that life goes on and we almost always have a chance to try again...to choose better next time.  I guess it's the same with my behavior as it is with my eating.  If I mess up, the solution is not to keep messing up, but to try again.  Oh, yeah, and allow for the fact that I am going to mess up.  Messing up is not the end of the world; it's a course correction.

Hugs.